My One Simple Rule For Letting Go Of The Past And Start Enjoying Life.

My One Simple Rule For Letting Go Of The Past And Start Enjoying Life.

"Don't get stuck with the thing that ruins your day. Smile and be happy. Life is too short to be wasted on negative thinking."

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This post is going to be short and to the point. Not my usual 2000+ words so it shouldn’t take long to read through.

We’ve all had good and bad life experiences. Being a 40 something single man I’ve had my share of good and bad relationships. I’ve had good friends and fake friends, right relationships and bad.  Some days life can be a bitch and other times it can be bae.

For years I was a guy that looked back over life focusing on the negative. I looked at the bad more than the good. I focused on what I didn’t have instead of what I did have. I looked back at failed relationships and missed opportunities like I was watching reruns of a bad 90s sitcoms too lazy to change the channel.  Eventually, enough became enough. So, what did I do about it?

Chose a day to start over and do it.

Back in the days of playing NES whenever a game didn’t go well, we’d hit a button labeled “reset”. You hit that button and the entire game reloads allowing you a do-over. Life doesn’t come with a reset button.  But that doesn’t mean you should keep allowing it to be bad.

NES Power and Reset button. We used it to reset a bad game. Use your reset button to get rid of negativity.

If you are the type of person who is living in the past like I use too, you need to make a big decision.  If you are serious, making this decision can change your life.

It’s really this simple. Chose a day, preferably today, and tell yourself that I will not let any bad experiences I’ve had BEFORE this date affect my life anymore. The people who hurt you, let them go. The friends who betrayed you, let them go. The family that talks shit about you, love them from a distance, but yes, let them go.  You must be the author of your life story.  Stop letting other people tell the narrative.


“But What If It’s Something that happened recently and the wound is still fresh?”

I was speaking to a friend who just last week who broke up with her boyfriend.  “I know you said to let it go, but he cheated and I’m still upset,” she told me.  I realized why she was upset, hell I’ve had numerous girlfriends in the past cheat on me. My ex-wife cheated so yes, I know how much it hurts.  But how long are you going to stay hurt?  I’m not saying the pain isn’t real, but we hold on to things way longer than we need to.


Stop living a life of insanity.

When you decide on a day to stop looking back at the past and evict negative people out of your life, you also need to decide to stop living a life of insanity. What does that mean?

Living a life of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again yet expecting different results.  Many people do this when it comes to relationships.  I’ve known many people who break up with a person, only to go back to them hoping things will be different.  That or they’ll choose another person with the same exact qualities as the person they just had a bad experience with.  That is some insane shit.

I’ve talked to guys that cry about their relationships going south, however, they continue to choose the same type of woman. Women do the same thing. Picking bad boys then crying when they do bad boy type stuff.  Seriously?

Let today be the day you chose to look at yourself and decide to change how you go about life and relationships. No, it may not be comfortable, but going on to go bullshit isn’t easy either. Stop choosing a comfortable misery because you are too afraid to try something different.


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Yeah, not much to say in conclusion. Just let that shit go and start over. It’s that simple. It may hurt at first but you’ll be better off in the end.

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Terrell Cotton is a motivational blogger and a full-time single father of two boys who are his heart and soul.  His blog,, is dedicated to helping people become better versions of themselves by building on principles of mindfulness, self-love, and positive self-esteem. Know thyself, Love thyself.






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