The 3 Dangerous Effects of Pornography Addiction.

Pornography (often abbreviated porn) is the portrayal of sexual subject matter for the purpose of sexual arousal.

There are some that say you cannot become addicted to pornography.  That watching pornography is a normal part of a boy becoming a man.  I don’t have to tell how flawed that thinking is.  Pornography is as addicting as drugs or alcohol.  Marriages, careers, and reputations have all been destroyed due to the effects of porn addiction. Below I will describe the effects of pornography on the mind, on society, and on the spirit.  I will also include the testimony of a woman who was addicted to pornography and how it almost ruined her life.

1. Biological Effects

Your Brain Becomes Dependent On It.

The more you watch pornography, the more your brain becomes dependent on it.  Watching pornography triggers the “mirror neurons”.  Wikipedia describes Mirror Neurons as “a neuron that fires both when an animal acts and when the animal observes the same action performed by another. Thus, the neuron “mirrors” the behavior of the other, as though the observer were itself acting.”

These neurons are involved in the process of “mirroring” and planning a certain type of behavior.  When a person watches pornography excessively, these neurons trigger arousal, which leads to sexual tension and thus requires that a person get a “fix” much like someone hooked on drugs. For many, this fix is masturbation or any other outlet to quench this urge.

This is what makes a person a slave to pornography.  This hold can be so strong that one can lose the ability to be aroused by their real life physical partner since the brain is now wired to only be aroused by pornographic images.

You Become a Dopamine Addict.

 

Dopamine plays a major role when it comes to becoming addicted to pornography. Dopamine is responsible for the brain’s reward driven behavior where a person or animal must engage in a certain activity to receive a reward.  Scientists has studied the effects of drugs like cocaine, heroin, and amphetamines have on the brain. Lab rats, in particular, have been used to demonstrate how strong the effect of dopamine is when it comes to the brain and addiction.  These rats were addicted to cocaine to the point where they desired the drug over food, thus dying of starvation.

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When a person watches pornography dopamine surges through the brain.  The more erotic the image, the more dopamine that is triggered.  The level of dopamine triggered by pornography can soon become more than is triggered by sex with your partner and thus it becomes harder to become aroused by them.  Their brain prefers the images from pornography than the thought of being with your partner.  Why do you think people so many people want to watch pornography while engaging in sex?  It’s because they need that stimulation in order to achieve a sense of pleasure. They are no better than the lab rats or anyone else hooked on drugs.

Eventually, your brain takes so many hits of dopamine from viewing porn that the person becomes desensitized to it.  The brain builds a tolerance to the “same old stuff”, thus it needs new and stronger sexual stimulation.  This can mean longer porn sessions or new visuals.  It can also mean exploring avenues outside of pornography.

 

2. Pornography’s Effect on Society.

Destroyed Relationships and Broken Homes.

“but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28

As described above, when people get addicted to pornography they eventually become desensitized to the same images and thus seek more explicit images.  They need to see a different type of person, a different scenario. This ruins a relationship because just as with watching porn, a person may get tired of the same partner and thus explore new avenues. New exploits to feed their sexual desire which often involves seeking a new partner.

This can be explained by what psychologist call the “Coolidge Effect”.  Wikipedia describes the Coolidge Effect.

In biology and psychology, the Coolidge effect is a phenomenon seen in animal species whereby males (and to a lesser extent female) exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners even after cessation of sex with prior but still available sexual partners. The evolutionary benefit to this phenomenon is that a male can fertilize multiple females. The male may be reinvigorated repeatedly for a successful insemination of multiple females. This type of mating system can be referred to as polygamy, where one male has multiple female mates, but each female only mates with one or a few male mates.

Allow me to break it down like this.  People can sometimes feel the need to go out and have sex with as many people as they can.  They can be in a relationship, or even married, and still go outside of their relationship to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere.

Sex is easy to get today. Download an app on your phone and swipe a few times until you find a woman you like.  Contact he, chat for a little bit and meet-up.  The next thing you know you’re having sex with a person you barely know.  Don’t say this doesn’t happen because I have done it. I’ve had sex with women the same day I have met them.  It wasn’t hard. This is why so many people go outside their relationships to find pleasure elsewhere.

“The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense; He who would destroy himself does it. Wounds and disgrace he will find, and his reproach will not be blotted out.”  Proverbs 6:32-33

Now you may ask why does this matter?  Well, remember the Coolidge Effect.  There are people so trapped by their need of sexual conquest that it’s no challenge to find willing participants.  They themselves trapped by their own lustful desires. Now it’s expected that a man doesn’t have to commit to the mother.  She doesn’t have to be a wife, just be a woman that happens to get pregnant and bring multiple children into the world without a stability.  Some women will have multiple children by several men and see nothing wrong with it.  The men roam like dogs, impregnating too many willing women, and then leave them to raise the children that will soon follow the example of the parents. Why do you think we see so many 30 Something-year-old Grandparents? The cycle of madness needs to stop.

Pornography and Sex Slavery.

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We often hear heartbreaking stories of women and children who are sold into sex slavery. Appalled at the stories told by survivors.  We can’t comprehend the world where girls as young as 10 years old are forced to sexual please grown men. Women abused and mistreated by their pimps, stripped of their dignity for the sexual gratification of others.

However, we live in a society that is fine with pornography.  Many will say it’s just another genre of entertainment.  Pornography is just tolerated, it’s celebrated. The same women that denounce sex slavery and prostitution, will flock to theatres to watch 50 Shades of Grey.  Some will even have parties.

 

What many people don’t understand is that many women and children who exploited are used in the pornography those addicted to it watch daily.  Pimps will film acts of prostitution to distribute as pornography.  Trafficked women are often used in live internet sex shows where a person pays a fee to watch them on a webcam. Many of those trafficked are done so strictly for pornography, not sold on the street. There is a misconception that porn actresses often are women who chose to be in pornography.  While this may be true for a select few, this misconception will cause people to turn a blind eye to the slavery they are watching.

Make no mistake, if you watch pornography, you are contributing to sex trafficking.  It’s basic supply and demand.  There wouldn’t be a need for the supply if the demand wasn’t so high. Many of you would become furious at the thought of your daughters or nieces being abused by a pimp and forced to have sex with strangers. Yet you will freely watch the daughter and nieces of others do it without a second thought. What does that really say about the person you really are?

 

3. Pornography’s Effect on the Spirit.

I once had at a bible study for single Christians and the topic of sex and pornography came up.  One woman in particular who usually presented herself as overly pious let it be known by her shameless comments that she was a slave to fornication and pornography.  She openly stated how she had met a guy and how they watched pornography together. I asked her why she was so willing to be pious when it came to other things in her “faith”, but defiantly disobedient when it comes to this?

She simply stated she enjoyed it.  I left it alone and moved on to pornography.  I asked, “So you not only enjoy your own sexual sin but also enjoy watching others participate in it”?  She thought about this for a minute and in a vain attempt to throw me off, she asked: “If the people are married is it still a sin?” I knew at this point she was addicted and beyond my help.

 

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

1 Corinthians 6: 18-20

Watching pornography would definitely fall within the realm of “Sexual Immorality”.  When you come to the point of playing spiritual lawyer, trying to find loopholes to enjoy your sin without “technically sinning’, you are living in open rebellion to a Holy God. Watching porn, fornication, adultery, all of this shows that you have absolutely no Fear of the Lord or his holy judgment.  It’s really as simple as that.  Sin separates you from God since God cannot abide where there is sin.  You can’t have it both ways.

How Porn Can Affect Your Life.  A Testimony from a Friend.

Below is a testimony from a female friend of mine. She told me how porn addiction affected her life and I asked if I could share it in this article.  She agreed.  I hope this goes to show that not only men are addicted to porn, and porn can have long lasting consequences.

I was exposed to sex very early at the age of two. I was molested from that moment on I was hypersexual growing up. I was surrounded by hypersexual people because molestation or hyper sexualized activities were all around me. At around the age of six, I believe I dreamed of just being a stripper for a high-class call girl.  That being said by the time I was old enough to access on my computer, at about the age of 10 or 11, I begin watching pornography. Taking in information so that I would be wanted and be the best at what I wanted to do which I thought would give me love and attention.

Needless to say, that was all part of the devil's lies to plant a seed. I based my self-worth on being desired.

I begin to think that physical contact was love. I didn't end up with multiple sex partners like many of my friends.  I would normally end up with one for several years. Eventually, I stayed with one person and we had a family.  However, I still could not stop the urge to constantly educate myself and that world of pornography and sexuality.   I tried to use sex to fill the void of not feeling loved by my husband.  He began to notice that my behavior was strange.  I was watching porn asking him to do strange things.  He got uncomfortable. He got tired of my constant talking about pornography.  Talking sexual acts while eating or driving became normal conversation every day.  One day I went to my mother about it telling her I don't know why I was that way.  Even my girlfriends would feel awkward when I would bring it up to them.

I begin to watch pornography secretly and in the dark.  I wouldn't tell anyone about it.  I would just isolate myself and feed the hunger that lasted several years.  I had three children and was now pregnant with my fourth.  All of a sudden my husband did not think I was desirable I sunk into a deep depression. I would beg him to have sex with me.  Instead, he became the person hiding in the bathroom watching porn.  He avoided physical contact with me and I became obsessed with his rejection.  I would cry for several hours or lock myself in the bathroom and cry.  Finally, one day, I was driving with my mother and a David Crowder song “How He Loves Us” came on the radio. I began weeping uncontrollably.

That moment I felt like God was speaking to me he was telling me it didn't matter what was going on and that he loved me unconditionally.  I went home that night and I couldn't watch porn.  It made me uncomfortable and I knew that God was watching me and I didn't want him to see me watching that

I became embarrassed when watching it.  I took gradually taking steps every day and every time I would think about it, I would reject the thoughts of going to the bathroom and watching porn.

By this time my husband was watching live video feeds, going to chat sites, dating sites, talking to women on Facebook, and hiding in the bathroom to watch porn.  I could feel something was going on and I didn't want to argue or start a fight.  Long story short, he ended up leaving.

I felt like it was my fault because I was undesirable.  I begged God to bring him back to me.  I've cried and cried and cried.  At that point, sex didn’t matter.  I begin to have issues with my pregnancy. I had to constantly pray and worship God just to feel sane and, feel secure to sleep and make it from hour to hour.  I went to the hospital every other day.  During the last 2 months of my pregnancy, they kept sending me home telling me I had anxiety.

I started thinking about what really mattered and wanting to be okay. To stay alive and just have a normal life.  I was so afraid to get drawn back into my porn addiction.  I was afraid that if I gave in God would let me die.  I know now that God is a God of love. However, when you're in that moment and you're sick, you feel like you're fighting for your life and all you want God to do is just show his grace.  I really don't want to do anything that would make him frown upon me so I was too afraid to even watch it at that point.  God showed his grace upon me a few months later, having my child and battling for my life once again.  At that point, I looked back and I realized I haven't even thought about porn. My hyper-sexualized thoughts that I used to have constantly, I didn't think about it.

I do feel the anointing of the Holy Spirit now.  God speaks to me way more frequently as I read my bible.  I can feel his love now more than ever and it's so much better than that dark, empty place porn addiction puts you in.

I'm not dating right now and I'm not out in the world surrounded by hypersexuality, so I have kind of removed myself from being in a position that would possibly have me go back that way.  I know that God is strengthening me as I draw me near to him.  Porn is a thing of the past.  The old me has perished and the new me is being regenerated.  My Faith is growing as well as my self-confidence as a woman free from porn addiction.

 



Terrell CottonTerrell Cotton is a motivational blogger and a full-time single father of two boys who are his heart and soul.  His blog, Terrellcotton.com, is dedicated to helping men become better versions of themselves by building on biblical principles of authentic manhood and fatherhood.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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